Sometimes When Life Throws Us Curveballs We Start Doubting Ourselves.
And start wondering what’s wrong with us?
My earliest memory of not feeling good about myself was at the age of 12. I can remember there was peer pressure to have the perfect body and not really fitting in socially, particularly with the popular kids.
I was shy, tall for my age and self-conscious.
Impressionable, vulnerable, fragile.
I felt the same in high school. Team Sports were my saving grace and helped me make some strong friendships.
Being ‘smart’ but nerdy, I attracted similar like-minded friends to me.
We all knew we were not in the ‘popular’ group.
The feeling of not fitting in left an indelible footprint on my soul.
What I have learned since…is that we get our sense of self-worth in childhood.
Our confidence and self-worth comes from the relationship and attachment we have with our primary care givers, our parents during our formative years.
And when you grow up in a dysfunctional family, you take the attachment styles and the dysfunctional ways of relating with you into adult relationships.
It’s interesting as humans that we struggle with the concept of loving ourselves more.
When you start negotiating your self-worth and accept less in relationships or your job, you are saying to yourself and the people around you…that you don’t deserve any better.
Remember, like attracts like.
Your energy, confidence and attitude is what draws people to you.
Are you attracting the kind of people you want in your life?
Are they treating you well?
If you don’t value yourself enough, you will always be attracted to people who don’t value you either.
Signs of Low Self-Worth
When we don’t love ourselves enough, here are some of the ways we compromise ourselves and our self-worth:
- We don’t live in alignment with our core values – and suffer from feelings of guilt, shame and anxiety because we are not living in accordance with what’s most important for us.
- We stay trapped in bad relationships and sabotage new relationships. We are afraid to tell people how we feel and what makes us happy.
- We question what’s wrong with us – rather than accept that the relationship and person wasn’t right for us.
- You sell yourself short in a relationship – and put up with treatment that you know is unacceptable to keep a guy happy and interested.
- You abandon parts of yourself – to be in a relationship, including your friendships, hobbies and things you like doing.
- Don’t trust your judgement and gut feelings – you worry about being wrong.
- Your needs take a backseat to everyone else’s – including diet, exercise, physical and emotional needs.
Over time, we let negative life experiences and the judgements of others invade our psyche and self-esteem.
What Needs to Change to Love Yourself More…
When you love yourself unconditionally, you take pride in what you have to offer. In relationships, in your work and friendships.
For people to respect you, you need to meet your own needs first.
Know your value and don’t let others treat you in any other way, except how you deserve to be treated.
Know intrinsically at soul level…that you are enough.
That you are loveable.
And perfect just the way you are.
EXTRACT FROM THE MIND BODY SOUL BALANCE SELF-MASTERY GUIDE By Rose Burnett
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